Something I’ve been thinking about lately and trying to improve on in my own journey is this: less complaining, more positive thinking.
Now don’t get me wrong—life is busy. We’re juggling a lot, sometimes all with one hand, and it’s easy to vent. Sometimes it even feels good to just let it all out. That’s real.
But what if we got a little more aware of when we’re doing it—and started reducing (or even eliminating) the habit of complaining altogether?
Because here’s the truth: it doesn’t actually get us anywhere. We can only control so much, and when we waste time complaining instead of looking forward, we’re burning mental space and energy that could be spent building something better.
Sometimes, things just are what they are.
I shared something similar in an email to our coaching team the other day around the idea of expectations. Because when you really break it down, most of our complaints stem from expectations that didn’t go how we wanted:
– The workout didn’t feel like it “should’ve”
– The schedule got flipped upside down
– Someone didn’t show up how we expected
– We thought progress would come faster
– We assumed we’d always feel motivated
But life doesn’t hand us what we expect. It gives us what we earn—and often, what we need.
I came across this challenge a pastor gave to his community: try to go 21 days without complaining.
Sounds easy, right?
Most people took 4 to 6 months to hit 21 days straight.
That’s how automatic it is.
But that also means this is changeable. And it starts with awareness.
A positive outlook doesn’t require everything in your life to be perfect—it just requires that you respond better.
Let go of expectations. Let go of the need for things to go your way. Instead, ask:
“What’s the next best move I can make right now, with what I’ve got?”
Because when you show up with that mindset, the little things don’t derail you anymore.
And here’s the kicker: complaining is contagious. So is optimism. You attract what you reflect.
If you constantly complain, your brain literally rewires to only see the negative.
But if you choose to see:
– Effort instead of excuses
– Progress instead of perfection
– Lessons instead of losses
Then everything changes.
You start seeing the world through ownership and gratitude. You stop waiting for perfect conditions and start showing up—messy, real, and in motion. That’s what life’s about.
We all live busy lives. This isn’t about pretending that changes. It’s about not getting stuck in it. About rising above it.
When you hear complaining - whether from others or yourself - try to step away from it. Don't let it seep into your mindset. Protect your outlook. Stay on offense. Aim to keep a positive lens, even when it's hard. It won't always be perfect, but awareness is the first step.
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